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Handfasting, Unity Candles, Unity Sand


This is from Jimmy and Bobbie's wedding. They are happy to share it with you.

Minister: I ask you to look into each others eyes.

Will you honor and respect one another, and seek to never break that honor?
We will.
[the ribbon is draped over the top of the couples' hands]

Will you share each other's pain and seek to ease it?
We will.
[the ribbon is draped over the hands again]

Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?
We will.
[the ribbon is draped a third time]

Will you share each other's laughter, and look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other?
We will.
[the ribbon is draped the final time and tied together]

[Bride and groom], as your hands are bound together now,
so your lives and spirits are joined in a union of love and trust.
Above you are the stars and below you is the earth.
Like the stars, your love should be a constant source of light, and like the earth, a firm foundation from which to grow.
[Untie the ribbon]

This is from another wedding. It is an excellent backdrop for handfasting.
Celtic Wedding Vow
by Morgan Llywelyn

You cannot possess me for I belong to myself,
But while we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give
You cannot command me, for I am a free person,
But I shall serve you in those ways you require and
the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand.

I pledge to you that yours will be the name
I cry aloud in the night and the eyes into which I smile in the morning.
I pledge to you the first bite of my meat and the first drink from my cup
I pledge to you my living and my dying, each equally in your care
I shall be a shield for your back and you for mine
I shall not slander you, nor you me
I shall honor you above all others,
and when we quarrel we shall do so in private
and tell no strangers our grievances

This is my wedding vow to you
This is the marriage of equals.


Unity Candles and Unity Sand

The symbol of two individuals becoming one, unity candles may be lit after you say your vows or during your wedding reception.

Using two small tapers, the bride and groom together light the unity candle. If you wish, both mothers and/or any children of the bride or groom may have their own tapers and light the unity candle at the same time as the bride and groom. This is a wonderful way to unite a family.

 It is not necessary to buy special candles for this occasion, although they are readily available. To save money, or if this is a last minute addition to your ceremony, purchase white tapers and a large round candle.

Some couples relight the unity candle on their anniversary.


Unity Sand

You don't have to marry on a beach to add a unity sand ceremony to your wedding. A sand ceremony is for everyone!

If you are marrying on a beach, grab some sand! You also might have collected sand and kept it from a special vacation. However, for most of us, it is more practical to buy sand. Sand ceremony kits are available on the Internet, or you can do it yourself. Aside from the sand (which you can buy at a craft store or pet shop), you will need one large vase and two smaller pouring vases. White is traditional, but the bride and groom can each have their own colored sand.

The groom first pours some of the sand into the unity vase, then the bride and groom alternate, layering the sand. Both pour what is left from their vases at the same time, filling the vase.

While pouring the sand, the bride and groom may repeat Native American blessings or the officiant may read a poem or prayer of the couple's choosing.